Two Complementary Program Opportunities with Pam Winthrop Lauer
Beyond Agreeing to Disagree: Maintaining Integrity AND Connection when Someone’s Understanding of Reality Differs from Your Own.
December 14, 2022 6:30 to 8:30pm
with Pam Winthrop Lauer
- Have you given up on staying in connection with people whose views are now feeling dangerous to you?
- Do you sometimes nod your head in order to get along, but inside feel awful for betraying your own convictions?
- Do you sometimes feel you MUST set them straight, all the while knowing they won’t believe you?
- Do you find “agreeing to disagree” maintains peace but also leaves a bit of a wall between you?
- Believe it or not, it IS possible to stay in compassionate connection without betraying our own integrity.
In this 2-hour workshop we will learn some basic principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) that will help us to tend to our own fears, maintain our integrity, and still open our hearts to friends and family members who see the world very differently than we do. It does take some work and practice, though.
If you are looking for more opportunities to learn and practice Nonviolent Communication, please consider this follow-up program that works as a stand-alone workshop and also builds on “Beyond Agreeing to Disagree”.
Moving from Anger into Love-Based Action
January 18, 2023 6:30 to 8:30pm
with Pam Winthrop Lauer
When we experience anger, blame, and despair about what someone is doing that is causing harm, often we are avoiding the grief that comes with accepting the truth of what is happening. We fight reality – we resist accepting what is true. But real change comes from first acknowledging with compassion the realities that we face. By identifying what we long for and mourning its lack, we enter into that compassionate acknowledgment of what is true, and from there can work effectively to change it, because now we are working from a place of love.
The Transforming Blame into Mourning into Love-Based Action process is a practical, step-by-step tool that we can use to meet the grief under our anger, tend to it with compassion, and then seek our inner wisdom for the action to which we are called.
Pam Winthrop Lauer
Pam is a spiritual director and Certified Trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication (cnvc.org). Based in St. Paul, Minnesota, Pam has been practicing NVC since 2006 and doing NVC training, mediation, and coaching full-time since 2016. For Pam, NVC is a practical “how-to” practice for living with an open heart. Her Spiritual Direction certification is from the Lev Shomea Jewish Spiritual Direction Training Program of 2001-2003.